--- In NewcastleMBC@..., "macsgals" <macsgals@...> wrote:
>
> Hello all.... Can some kind mum or dad please give me some tips on how
> to spend individual time with each of my twins, they are 15 month old
> identical twin girls. I also have a busy 3 year old and not much close
> family around and my husband is at work 10 hours a day. I just feel
> like I am neglecting them as I have no time. I find they are
> constantly fighting, pulling hair, biting and scratching each others
> eyes out just to get some sort of attention. Is this normal??
> I found so much reading information on twins before they turned one
> and now that we are heading into the terrible two stage I can find no
> information close at hand. Does anyone have any good books or websites
> that I could visit??
>
> Thank you so much for listening to me. Cheers Belynda
>
Hi Belynda

I don't know of any particular books that might be helpful but I have
been on the AMBA forum a number of times. There seems to be lots of
members on that forum and there are bound to be people there who may
have some ideas. For what it is worth, my twins are 16 1/2 months and
they fight all the time too. One of them bites, there is no hair
pulling (but only because there is not enough hair) or scratching but
plenty of screaming, screaching and high pitched squealing. I suspect
that it is normal. Try not to get too worried about spending one on
one time with the twins. You have 3 small children without a great
deal of support, there is only so much you can do. That is what I
keep telling myself anyway! I am a firm believer that children will
turn out just fine as long as they are shown lots of love and it does
not have to be by themselves.

Good luck
Sophie