hey pettina...im sorry you had such a crappy day. i have only got a
minute but i just wanted to let you know that our daughter maddison,
whos 8, definitly cries about kayla and tells people she has a sister
in heaven. maddy actually never seen kayla...not even a photo. i
worry what that would do to her. when maddy cries and says she misses
kayla i just hug her...and maybe cry too...and tell her we all do and
its ok to feel like this and its good to remember her. maddy did have
counselling after kayla which they encouraged her to draw her
feelings. i do have to go but i hope this helps a little. although
our girls are different age. i hope everyone has a great day. my
heart is broken today as my 8 year old told me last night she wishes
i was never her mum :( i am sad. but am pretty sure(and hopeful)
she didn't mean it. Toni xoxox

--- In as_ap@..., "pettinabeves" <pettinabeves@...>
wrote:
>
> Things have been a bit rough and i have had trouble getting out of
bed
> in the morning due to sickness and the ungodly hour isabella likes
to
> wake at the moment. This morning she got into Mercy's photo book
that
> i keep in my bag and got a smack which just snow balled.
>
> She started crying and saying that she "needs mercy" and she "wants
> mercy" then preceeded to tell me that she was sad and followed this
up
> by "Mercy dies Mercy dies".
>
> Needless to say Mummy had a lot of tears too and it was an
emotional
> start to the day.
>
> When John and I chose to carry to term we askerd how this would
affect
> Isabella. She was 13months when Mercy was born and we were told
that
> she would barely remember. Ohhh how my heart broke this morning.
>
> Has anyone else experienced these moments with there kids. Isabella
is
> only 20 months now
>