Thanks for sharing your story Natalie, it's good to get to know more
about a newest member.

It's not easy to be told that 'something is wrong' during what should
be a routine ultrasound, but everyone here has experienced that very
same thing, we all understand the pain and confusion.

I think that's the good thing about having a group like this to turn
to, for me it's great to know that I can say something knowing full
well that people here have walked a mile in very similiar shoes and
get it. That people around me here understand that some days are
hard, very hard, and some are full of laughter and joy when others who
haven't experienced it just can't work out how you're coping, let
alone smiling.

Having Alex's siblings to think about at this time is a mixed thing
too I'm sure. I know I just wanted to crawl into bed and cry all day
long for weeks, but had Sage to wake up to and do things for...she
helped keep mummy sane. I was amazed at how well, at 7, she
understood what I needed during those dark days.

If I can give you any advice right now, it's to make a lot of memories
during your pregnancy with precious Alex. Contact a group like Sids &
Kids and utilise their support networks too (let me know if you'd like
info)...they have free phone counselling, it's a godsend.

Everything that I wore or used or ate during my pregnancy with ~Ben~ &
Nara became a treasure to me, we had the scans taped (luckily with
twins we had LOTS of scans)...so I have precious footage of my twins
alive together by way of those scan tapes.

I'm sure you have lots of questions to ask of us all...please feel
free to do so, as I for one am happy to share my own opinions and
experiences in the hope it might help you now. Just ask if you need
a hug too!

Lea xxxxxx

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> Hi Lea & everyone,
>
> I'm Natalie, mother to Matthew 3 years and Bethany 22 months.
> Currently 18 weeks pregnant with little Alex he has been diagnosed
> with anen. We are going to continue our journey with Alex,
> hopefully for a long as possible. Our Doctor will let me go to 36
> weeks, I have to have a c-section whatever happens. I find I have a
> couple of ok days and then I loose the plot for a day. It's so hard
> to deal with, all your hopes and dreams shattered by a scan.
> Feel so alone, as one understands what your thinking and feeling.
> Everything is so uncertain except that we are going to loose our
> little man. Would love to hear from anyone. Thanks
> Natalie
>