Elizabeth, I'm so glad you've made your introduction, welcome to the group......it's such a shame you've had to join us....the circumstances are very painful and it's nice to know you're surrounding yourself with people who understand from experience.
What a confusing time you've been through and so recently, I know that it isn't an easy choice you've made and admire your strength in doing so. You may not think yourself strong for having chosen that path yet, but in time I hope you realise it takes no less courage to interrupt a pregnancy than it does to carry a child knowing it can't live............both choices require a great deal of love and compassion I believe.
I think it's nice that you want to name your baby girl, it's a decision you and hubby will have to come to together which isn't always easy when you're poles apart in thinking....sounds like he's stuck in the idle pools of denial, give him time Elizabeth and if you can't agree.....well perhaps it's a special thing you'll have for your daughter and yourself in the future, to give her a name in your heart.
How lovely that you've created a special place in your garden, I too hope to do that one day. I found a delightful crafty plaque that reads "an angel plays here" that I am going to put in my garden, along with a beautiful fountain I was given when my twins were born for Ben's rememberance garden by some very special friends....it's good to have somewhere special to go and reflect on the dreams you held for your angels if you ask me.
Well, Elizabeth, you've taken the first step and said hi, I'm so pleased. I hope you can encourage your new friend who lives near you to join us too, we'd love to have her company also.
Much love to you as you walk this rough road.
Lea
Mum to Sage, Nara and angel baby ~Ben~
Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break. ~William Shakespeare
----- Original Message ----
From: Elizabeth <epsmith@...>
To: as_ap@...
Sent: Friday, 11 January, 2008 1:20:32 PM
Subject: [as_ap] (unknown)
hello to all,
My name is Elizabeth. 9 weeks ago i had a interuption of pregnancy
because my baby girl had anencephaly. It was the hardest decision
that i have ever had to make but i knew that i couldn't go to full
term knowing that she wouldn't have survived. Not only could i not
put myself through that heart break but i couldn't do it to my
husband, kids, family or friends. I envy every one here who did
decide to go on. Unfortunally i know that i am not strong enough for
that. I found out that our baby had this awful condition at 14 weeks
when i went for a scan. The lady who done the scan was not very nice
with the way she told me. It was a case of your baby has no scull, it
will die, you have to get rid of it. i couldn't believe what i was
hearing. We got taken to brisbane where i had another scan to confirm
it and they took me in the next day for the interuption of pregnancy.
It took a further 7 weeks before they could tell me that our baby was
a girl. We still haven't named her yet. I want to but my husband
doesn't. he is a typical guy that really doesn't like talking about
it. I thought that i was handling the grieving process really well
until about 3 weeks later and i was a complete mess. I ended up
phoning a support group called sands and fould them really good to
talk too. They called me back a few days later and gave me the number
for a lady who had also had a interuption of pregnancy as her baby
had the same condition. We have became so close over the past few
weeks and it is so good to have some one who lives only 20mins away
who is going through the exact same thing as what i am. I have made a
little memorial garden in my yard and i have a few things inside so i
have some thing to remember her by (not that i would ever forget
her). I desperatly want another baby, (not to replace the one that i
lost) I just don't know when its a good time to start trying. We're
not doing any thing to prevent it from happening, i just don't know
how i am going to react when i find out that i am pregnant again. i
guess i will be excited but also really scared until i have the first
scan and find out that he/she is ok. Well, i had better be off. Hope
to talk to some one soon.
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From: Elizabeth <epsmith@...>
To: as_ap@...
Sent: Friday, 11 January, 2008 1:20:32 PM
Subject: [as_ap] (unknown)
hello to all,
My name is Elizabeth. 9 weeks ago i had a interuption of pregnancy
because my baby girl had anencephaly. It was the hardest decision
that i have ever had to make but i knew that i couldn't go to full
term knowing that she wouldn't have survived. Not only could i not
put myself through that heart break but i couldn't do it to my
husband, kids, family or friends. I envy every one here who did
decide to go on. Unfortunally i know that i am not strong enough for
that. I found out that our baby had this awful condition at 14 weeks
when i went for a scan. The lady who done the scan was not very nice
with the way she told me. It was a case of your baby has no scull, it
will die, you have to get rid of it. i couldn't believe what i was
hearing. We got taken to brisbane where i had another scan to confirm
it and they took me in the next day for the interuption of pregnancy.
It took a further 7 weeks before they could tell me that our baby was
a girl. We still haven't named her yet. I want to but my husband
doesn't. he is a typical guy that really doesn't like talking about
it. I thought that i was handling the grieving process really well
until about 3 weeks later and i was a complete mess. I ended up
phoning a support group called sands and fould them really good to
talk too. They called me back a few days later and gave me the number
for a lady who had also had a interuption of pregnancy as her baby
had the same condition. We have became so close over the past few
weeks and it is so good to have some one who lives only 20mins away
who is going through the exact same thing as what i am. I have made a
little memorial garden in my yard and i have a few things inside so i
have some thing to remember her by (not that i would ever forget
her). I desperatly want another baby, (not to replace the one that i
lost) I just don't know when its a good time to start trying. We're
not doing any thing to prevent it from happening, i just don't know
how i am going to react when i find out that i am pregnant again. i
guess i will be excited but also really scared until i have the first
scan and find out that he/she is ok. Well, i had better be off. Hope
to talk to some one soon.
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