Hi elizabeth
Its so nice to meet you. Everyones story seems so different but all
the babies just as special. I hope you and your husband are able to
talk in time and name your baby together.

My husband and i are taking things as they come and just hoping that
ill fall pregnant when my body is ready again. Im terrified i have
to admit. I ask myself all the time,What if something is wrong
again? Could i carry to term again if something is wrong? what if i
cant fall pregnant this time? etc etc and than i think just relax
but i so desperately want another little one. But im also terrified
that having another one will make Mercy's death too real, so what if
i dont cope? I feel like ive been the rock of this family since her
passing, my husband is starting to do better now but christmas was
tuff for us. Like you my Mercy has only been gone a short time (10
weeks tomorrow).
I hope to hear more from you soon.
--- In as_ap@..., "Elizabeth" <epsmith@...> wrote:
>
> hello to all,
> My name is Elizabeth. 9 weeks ago i had a interuption of pregnancy
> because my baby girl had anencephaly. It was the hardest decision
> that i have ever had to make but i knew that i couldn't go to full
> term knowing that she wouldn't have survived. Not only could i not
> put myself through that heart break but i couldn't do it to my
> husband, kids, family or friends. I envy every one here who did
> decide to go on. Unfortunally i know that i am not strong enough
for
> that. I found out that our baby had this awful condition at 14
weeks
> when i went for a scan. The lady who done the scan was not very
nice
> with the way she told me. It was a case of your baby has no scull,
it
> will die, you have to get rid of it. i couldn't believe what i was
> hearing. We got taken to brisbane where i had another scan to
confirm
> it and they took me in the next day for the interuption of
pregnancy.
> It took a further 7 weeks before they could tell me that our baby
was
> a girl. We still haven't named her yet. I want to but my husband
> doesn't. he is a typical guy that really doesn't like talking
about
> it. I thought that i was handling the grieving process really well
> until about 3 weeks later and i was a complete mess. I ended up
> phoning a support group called sands and fould them really good to
> talk too. They called me back a few days later and gave me the
number
> for a lady who had also had a interuption of pregnancy as her baby
> had the same condition. We have became so close over the past few
> weeks and it is so good to have some one who lives only 20mins
away
> who is going through the exact same thing as what i am. I have
made a
> little memorial garden in my yard and i have a few things inside
so i
> have some thing to remember her by (not that i would ever forget
> her). I desperatly want another baby, (not to replace the one that
i
> lost) I just don't know when its a good time to start trying.
We're
> not doing any thing to prevent it from happening, i just don't
know
> how i am going to react when i find out that i am pregnant again.
i
> guess i will be excited but also really scared until i have the
first
> scan and find out that he/she is ok. Well, i had better be off.
Hope
> to talk to some one soon.
>