this group is fantastic and lea deserves great recognition for having
the courage for starting it.
and lea as for your daughter being with you...wow..that must've been
tough. our daughter came with me to my first ultrasound which was at
7 weeks and 1 day which they didn't pick up on anything then. at the
ultrasound when we found out we had family looking after...lucky as
we didn't/couldn't see her till the next night until we felt we could
without crying. and something i haven't mentioned sis that my
daughter kayla was also stillborn. that was good for us as we felt we
wouldn't have been able to wait until she passed away. thanks again
for listening and i look forward to talking to everyone in the group
at anytime :) from toni.


--- In as_ap@..., "pettinabeves" <pettinabeves@...>
wrote:
>
> Finding out about this group has been a fantastic thing for me. I
> found my pregnancy to be extremely lonely, all the sights i did
find
> were overseas groups and though good for information still left me
> feeling worlds apart, quite literally. You feel like the only one
> that cold ever understand until you find a place like this. It has
> already helped me open up to my grief, just knowing there are
others
> to talk to if things get too hard.
>
> Thanks for starting this group lea
>
>
> --- In as_ap@..., Lea Coleman <leannec72@> wrote:
> >
> > Take your time on here, there's no rush you just be here when you
> need to and we'll do our best to help you through this time.
> >
> > BTW....my eldest Sage was 7 when she came to our ultrasound and
we
> found out...she's had a lot of good progress with talking to a
> pyschologist (as we all have), I'd recommend it if you haven't
> already had that help for her.
> >
> > Talk soon.
> >
> > Lea
> > Mum to Sage, Nara and angel baby ~Ben~
> > Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the
o'er-
> fraught heart and bids it break. ~William Shakespeare
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > ----- Original Message ----
> > From: toni.hucker <toni.hucker@>
> > To: as_ap@...
> > Sent: Sunday, 13 January, 2008 7:24:10 PM
> > Subject: [as_ap] Re: Welcome new member Toni
> >
> > its funny, as i write this after reading your post i have tears
> going
> > down my face. when i found the group in facebook i was so
> realieved,
> > then when i posted on the wall and had no replies i felt let
down.
> > this is exactly what i need while TTC, some support from people
> who
> > know exactly how it feels. i can't imagine your pain (well i
> suppose
> > i can!) with having twins. i try and think (although not at the
> time)
> > that things happen for a reason but i really don't know the
reason
> > behind anecephaly. i've been taking folic acid forever now but
its
> > hard to believe folic acid could've changed what happened. in
fact
> i
> > chose to believe it wouldn't have changed anything...for some
> unknown
> > reason maybe it wasn't our time. we had everything for our Kayla
> > already and all we wanted to know was the sex of our baby at the
> > ultrasound. our daughter who was 7 at the time cried so much i
> > thought my heart would break...again. im going to keep it a
secret
> > this time until we know. thank you so much for listening
(reading).
> > you have really made my day with this group. one day i may post
> > photos and tell my story a bit more but for now im going to take
> > comfort in the fact your group is here. from toni--- In
> > as_ap@..., Lea Coleman <leannec72@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Toni, your comment about others not knowing what it's like
> really
> > strikes a chord with me, I too felt that I had to be surrounded
by
> > people who REALLY knew what I was feeling, it had to be someone
> who'd
> > lost a child to anen, and imagine my relief when the first person
> I
> > met who'd had a child with anen was a twin mum too.....phew it
was
> > like an angel had heard my prayers.
> > >
> > > When you've made the tough choices about a pregnancy you need
to
> > know that you're going to be heard by someone who knows the
fears,
> > the guilt, the horror of having to make choices about the life
and
> > death of a child, it's not something we'd wish on anyone but
> knowing
> > others out there have lived to tell the tale helps me.
> > >
> > > The fear of falling pregnant again is huge isn't it....you
know,
> I
> > wasn't really fearful of it until I actually did fall pregnant, I
> was
> > thinking I was all positive and ok with it, but when it happened
I
> > became insecure and fretful......I've just recently written a
post
> on
> > here to two other members where I mentioned that we just need to
> plan
> > our pregnancies really well. Knowing you've done all you can
> > (taking folate etc) can have a very comforting effect whilst TTC.
> > >
> > > I think that fear of it happening again can hold us back in our
> TTC
> > efforts, it's not until we accept that all the worry in the world
> > can't change things, and that, try as we may, worrying can't make
> > things work out ok if it's not meant to be.....I'm a firm
believer
> in
> > the old addage "it's better to have tried and failed than never
to
> > have tried at all".
> > >
> > > Good luck with your TTC.......sending you lots of bubby belly
> vibes.
> > >
> > > Please feel free to take a look around at our photo albums and
> the
> > files where some members have kindly included their own
> > stories....and you're more than welcome to add your own pics and
> > files too.
> > >
> > > Lea
> > > Mum to Sage, Nara and angel baby ~Ben~
> > > Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the
> o'er-
> > fraught heart and bids it break. ~William Shakespeare
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > ----- Original Message ----
> > > From: toni.hucker <toni.hucker@>
> > > To: as_ap@...
> > > Sent: Sunday, 13 January, 2008 6:22:04 PM
> > > Subject: [as_ap] Re: Welcome new member Toni
> > >
> > > --- In as_ap@..., "Lea" <leannec72@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > Toni, I'd like to welcome you to AS~AP, I'm so glad that
> you've
> > > joined
> > > > us and hope that you find coming here helps you deal with
your
> > grief
> > > > and emotions after your tragic loss. I look forward to
> getting
> > to
> > > > know you.
> > > >
> > > > Lea xxxxx
> > > >
> > >
> > > thanks for having me :) i had a girl named Kayla on september
> 4th
> > 2006
> > > after finding out she was anecephalic. she was 19 weeks 6 days
> old.
> > she
> > > was originally due on january 23rd 2007 so its coming up to
what
> > would
> > > have been her first b'day had everything been o.k. and if i'd
> had
> > her
> > > on her due date. not a day goes by that i don't think about her
> > > especially as we're trying for another baby (which i'm
stressing
> > > about)!! i'm really glad theres a group like this as it feels
> like
> > no-
> > > one understands what its like.
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
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